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i-r-i-s-h - October 10th, 2010 9:51 PM

my son is too shy to mingle with other kids. it is a big problem for me because during gatherings he hides behind my back or just wanted to be carried and does not want to play with other kids of his age. any remedy for this behavior?

**alexa** - October 10th, 2010 10:31 PM

well i did not experience such with my son. he is like an "everyone's friend" kind of boy. try to look back and check what instances made your son to behave that way. some may result from an experience in the past that could affect him to feel shy mingling with other kids.

bubbles - October 10th, 2010 11:03 PM

that could be a cause alexa because children do absorb what they experienced and may leave a certain fear in them that once they encounter a similar situation they tend to behave differently.

ziva_mesh - October 11th, 2010 3:37 PM

constantly expose with to extra curricular activities in school and even on outdoor parties along the neighborhood. help him boost his self-confidence by allowing yourself to appreciate every little thing he makes, sometimes small appreciations makes your child think he did best.

i-r-i-s-h - October 14th, 2010 12:02 AM

thanks for the views. i wanted him to get over this stage because he will soon be going to school.

about the past experiences, all i can think of is him being just inside the house most of the time and seldom expose to other people. so i guess ziva_mesh's suggestion is applicable. thanks!

Angelique - October 27th, 2010 1:18 AM

I've come across with numbers of parents who have this kind of problems and i am sure we don't like it when we see our kids acted this way with the other kids. maybe sometimes, we need to dig more with our kids' behavior of what really the reason is. maybe it is also a result of how we treat them inside with our own premises.

Misna - November 7th, 2010 10:46 PM

Lack of appreciation can result to low self esteem. I do believe in this because we parents are the first people that our child trusts and when we give them our appreciation it means something to them thus developing their confidence on certain things.

verna-dette - November 7th, 2010 10:51 PM

i certainly agree with that misna. we should be able to help our children with the little things we do. even a little "wow, that's a great job" line makes them feel happy.

redrose - November 11th, 2010 8:03 PM

this is an eye opener for me because i am not really vocal with appreciating things so i am not really use to given my child an appreciation on things he has done. i will try to be more vocal from now on.

i-r-i-s-h - November 11th, 2010 10:13 PM

yeah it is also something i should look into but i do appreciate things that he has done right. maybe i also need to support him on things that he did not do good at for him to persevere and develop confidence.

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