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roxie - November 14th, 2010 1:27 PM

my ex-partner and i are separated for the last 3 1/2 yrs and it has been a total relief since we the ending of our relationship was kind of harsh. when we got separated, he never knew i was pregnant then and it happens that when i gave birth he's already married with another woman and they had a baby just as same age of our daughter. i would like to ask support from him but i don't know if this is appropriate since my daughter is now 3 yrs old and in case i would come to him to ask for support, it will the first he would know we have a baby.

Karen - November 14th, 2010 1:28 PM

geez, you keep it that long? how did you happen to survive hiding the truth? that could be a problem, big one...

cindy - November 14th, 2010 1:33 PM

ops, one major mistake :(. i think it is best that you should communicate with him first and tell him about everything happened that day when you go separate ways.

heidi - November 14th, 2010 1:34 PM

i'm sorry to tell this i don't mean to hurt your feelings but it may be possible that he will not believe you about having a baby with him because that was 3 yrs ago and there are so many things happened to you on that expansion of time.

bobbielyn - November 14th, 2010 1:39 PM

yes i agree with that. the consequence too is that you are trying to barge-in into a relationship where he is already at peace with. but on the other hand, it is your daughter's right to know who her father is.

Dianara - November 14th, 2010 1:43 PM

you need a legal consultation on that matter, that's not an easy one mind you. before doing such move of asking any support, it is better to ask an atty's opinion so you won't get caught in between with the situation.

cynthia - November 14th, 2010 1:49 PM

that's a tough one. you should have told him ever since. i can't blame you too because we women do have our pride as well.

Jarrah - November 14th, 2010 1:59 PM

i am certain he might not claim it considering he now has a family of his own. he may think this is some sort of jeopardizing the life he is living with at the moment.

caroline - November 14th, 2010 2:06 PM

no matter what people say, your daughter is still his. don't be afraid to introduce your daughter to her as long as you guarantee him that you have no bad intentions other than asking for a child's support.

monica - November 14th, 2010 2:11 PM

that's right, you should guarantee him first so he wouldn't feel anything less of it as a threat. he would understand i know, a father can't be so rude to turn his back with his own blood.

CAUSLEY - November 14th, 2010 2:14 PM

to make things more legal, just consult an attorney to help you out. this is best resort for this kind of problems.

graciella - November 14th, 2010 2:17 PM

legal assistance is the best option and i must agree. you should also ask your parent's opinion in case you are living with them. try to weight things out first because it is really hard to just jump in with a decision you make that will affect both parties for your entire lifetime.

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