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worried_mom - February 23rd, 2011 12:46 AM

Hi everyone! my daughter is turning 3 next month and as a parent I'm worried that I might be missing on something. I know that toddlers can throw tantrums anytime of the day, but my baby is just impossible! More often than not, we end up getting a no for an answer. Sometimes it just gets so difficult to handle.

janey^ - February 23rd, 2011 1:05 AM

i assume your daughter is your first born. :) It's very typical for toddlers to act that way. You'll get used to it. It's just a phase.

Mrs. Smith - February 23rd, 2011 1:09 AM

That's their favorite word - NO. i got worried about that before, and i was advised to give them variety of choices. That way they can actually practice their decision-making skills without saying no too much.

worried_mom - February 23rd, 2011 1:16 AM

janey - ure right. she's my first born. hopefully, i could raise her just well.

Mrs. Smith - thanks. but can you explain a little bit more about giving choices?

Mrs. Smith - February 23rd, 2011 1:20 AM

well, it's like this. they say that toddlers say no a lot because they want to establish their authority, that they can also decide for themselves. What we can do is provide choices. (example) on food, when you let your child eat chicken, she can always say "no mommy, i don't want to eat chicken". So then what you do, you give her choices, chicken, pork, vegetable salad and what-have-you's. Something to that sense...

worried_mom - February 23rd, 2011 1:26 AM

That's really a great idea. I was able to give her choices before but it was more of just letting her choose between white and black or yes or no.. maybe a variety of choices would help. thanks!

Mrs. Smith - February 23rd, 2011 1:28 AM

anytime!
you can actually let her exercise her decision making skills in different ways. choosing her food, clothes, manner of doing things and a lot more.

janey^ - February 23rd, 2011 1:38 AM

aren't they going to turn into "manipulative toddlers" if we always give them what they want? well, just a thought....

Mrs. Smith - February 23rd, 2011 1:56 AM

I don't think so. you just have to be firm with the choices that you offer to your child, that way you don't reprimand them at the same time they get to practice their authority.

grace8 - February 23rd, 2011 1:58 AM

hey guys... i think giving toddlers options is actually more helpful than just tolerating the act of always saying "no". Kids are manipulative by nature, i guess we all are. LOL! it would depend entirely on how you'd handle your kid.

GEEdavis - March 2nd, 2011 9:28 AM

Hey welcome to the club mommy! :D

That is why the toddler stage is what they call the "terrible twos". This is the phase where handling the child is really crazy. As a mom myself, I know how you feel now because I've been there. Let me tell you, like the others here have assured you, it is normal and it is just a phase.

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