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the first stage of a child's learning abilities starts at home and no wonder she's been learning a lot from what she hears to you as parents and as role models. so it is a good idea to start all changes within your behavior as guardians and as the people whom your child is looking up to.

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The only thing that will stop this behavior is if you both stop, and be consistent in telling her that this is not appropriate language. If you can't stop in front of her, then you are just going to have to deal with the consequences.

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Maybe try a swearing jar for you and your husband and a behavior chart for your daughter. Oh and stop swearing in front of her.

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I don't know if it will work for you, but we have (so far) been able to stop our son cursing by explaining to him that the f word and dammit are "grown up words" and kids simply aren't allowed to use them yet. Now and then he still says dammit, rarely, and I just remind him gently that it's a grown up word only.

The other day we were talking about growing up, different ages, etc. I said when he is 16 he can drive a car and he goes 'and I can say dammit'. I just take it all in stride. He's learning about how the world works. All I can do is help.

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If you accidentally let a foul word slip once or twice, then it is easy enough to explain that you were wrong to use the word and you won't do it again and nor should your child. Then ignoring if they say it again would probably effectively end the issue.

However, if you make a habit of using the words around your child then I really don't see how you can demand that your child not use them...I mean, you can certainly try to explain that they are adult words, but at this point they probably come as naturally to her as they do to you. Its like for the past 3 years I've used the word "dog" around my son. Now all of the sudden if I told him, you can't say "dog," its an adult word only...do you really think that is going to stop him from saying it?

You can try punishment of some sort if she uses it, but if this has been going on for awhile, then IMO, its no more fair to put tabasco on her tongue than it would be to put it on your own.

It sounds like you are hoping to stop her from saying the words without you having to watch your own mouth at all around her and I just don't think that is possible.

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My 4 yr old swears all the time, I know its wrong to think this but he says it so serious it's hard not to chuckle (like he will drop something and say god dammit!). I have really tried not to swear in front of him anymore and have come along way. However I cannot get my hubby to stop. He says it just comes out. He has a bad temper and when he gets mad he swears, the F bomb is his favorite and the boys say it all the time too.

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I just ignore my daughter and she stops and forgets what she was saying. Only once I thought it was funny because she said it out of no where then I get in trouble with my mom. But ignoring seems to help my situation, maybe it can help yours too.

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First you should stop swearing. Your kid just follows the example and sorry but you and your husband aren't good ones.

Cauuse = you and husband swearing

effect = your kid swears too.

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this is a good example of kids learning by example...

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