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praise their intelligence and always tell him/her that she/he's the reason why you're happy. :) |
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Praise them.. |
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there are lots of ways to motivate your child but for me the best thing is to praise and appreciate every little thing they do. |
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I was visiting a friend's house recently and was intrigued by a handmade poster on the kitchen door. It was drawn in brightly coloured wax crayons and had two columns. On the left hand side the column was titled “Good” and had a big smiley face next to it. On the right side the column was titled “Not Good” and this had a big frowning face next to it. I studied the poster for a while and I quickly realised that the poster was being used as a reward and recognition system for my friend's four-year-old daughter.I chatted with my friends and asked them about how they used it with Leah and was very interested to hear what they had to say. Every time that Leah did something good, her parents rewarded her by writing down what she had done well and putting a big smiley face next to it. They did this with her and then praised her for it and made a big fuss out of the positive. This made her feel really good and apparently the pleasure on her face at her sense of achievement was a delight to see.I noticed that the “good” column had a long list of items and that the “not good” column” only had two things on it. Her parents said that they only put really unacceptable behaviour on that list and that their strategy was to only draw attention to the positive things that Leah did. They had discovered that by praising the positive and by offering emotional reward, Leah responded very well to the praise and her self confidence and self esteem had grown noticeably since they had started using this method.They had tried rewarding Leah with sweets and presents but they found that genuine praise given with love and sincerity was a far more powerful for the growth of their child (and cheaper too!).My conversation with Leah's parents got me thinking about motivation and I can remember for a long time how I used to think and believe that the materialistic motivators were the most powerful forms of encouragement. Then a few years ago I discovered that emotional drivers are the key to motivating yourself and others. |
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Little kids, little consequences, bigger kids, bigger consequences. That seems to be the key when using negative and positive consequences to motivate children. And, as children grow into their tweens you need to be even more creative, especially if you have more than one youngster to discipline and motivate. Let’s take a look at some imaginative rewards at your disposal to help motivate kids to behave and to act responsibly. |
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I have 11-year-old twins, a boy and a girl. When they misbehave I don’t always have a ready consequence to give them. At times I reprimand, other times I threaten, and sometimes I take away privileges. They lose television and video game time which bothers my son and my daughter doesn’t like to lose her computer time during which she instant messages her friends. They’re really too old for spankings and it’s difficult to get them to bed on school nights earlier than 8:30 PM. I’ve tried rewards and they like to earn an allowance, but they tend to spend it right away. It seemed easier to have rewards and punishments when they were younger, but I’m beginning to run out of ideas. Any suggestions? |
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tell them if theyre not going to listen youll not allowed them to go outside the house for a week, i think its gonna be a hard thing for them. |
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best way to Motivate your child is to praise them, appreciate things they did but not the bad ones ofcourse. then have to show your fulltime love to them. |
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love is the answer :) |
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