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if they really are your true friends, they don't put your happiness at risk. they should have been the people that will support what you are happy for and will stood up at your back whatever happens. you don't need to choose between the lines; friends or your family. choose what makes you feel happy and comfortable. you will know who your truly friends are when they will be there in such times that you will need them. |
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obviously you already have the idea that your friends are selfish enough to deprive your own happiness. if you are going to ask me, nothing beats the call of motherhood/parenthood, being a wife, job that gives you the assurance to give your daughter a brighter future, than friends who are self-centered and are just looking at the grandeur having awesome life in which you are not sure you will be happy at all. |
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Well I dont think you should be feeling bad at all. Good on you for getting your degree and keeping your job...as well as being a Mum. Friends definately come and go, maybe you are all at different stages in your lives, and you'll come back to one another when the time is right. Cheer up! |
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Yesterday I read this "Be who you say you are, and say what you feel to say because those that matter, don't mind. And those that mind, don't matter" ... The people that really loves you for who you are will accept your decisions in life. A friend, as a friend, will most likely give you advice but will never not judge your decisions. You should measure your success in life by looking at your family and asking yourself if you are truly happy. You can always make a change in your life if that is what you want, but don't do it for others. Do it to better yourself, to better your family's life. you and only you will know what is best for the 3 of you. It is obvious that you have accomplishments to feel proud of. You have a degree, have a nice job, have a beautiful family and a good husband. Be the best you can be always... to me that is success right there! |
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I agree, don't feel bad. You guys are at different levels of your lives; however I will say one thing. If they were truly your friend, they would check up on you from time to time to see how you are doing or if you want to hangout. I don't hang out with my friends as I used to but they still check in on me to see how the baby is doing, how I am doing, and even visit. For now, just stick with the job but that doesn't mean you can't browse the job market to see what's available in the city. Keep your head up. |
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Live your life for yourself, don't worry about what you're "supposed" to do. Do what makes you happy because in the end you are the one living your life and you know what's best for yourself. You will find new friends along the way that will be true to you. Real friends tell you their opinions about your life but stick with you no matter what decision you make. |
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Definitely don't do anything because it's what your so-called friends think you should do. Real friends stick behind you and while they may offer you advice, they won't try to bully you or treat you badly for the decisions you make. |
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