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DaizyG23 - October 11th, 2010 8:34 AM

I have a son, and my husband is bugging me with making another baby. If it were me I'd be satisfied with an only child. I know this is a decision only I and my husband can make but I'm just curious how you all feel. I'd say 90% is fine with having just one child but 10% sometimes wants another child. Are you really ever 100%? I can't help this tiny nagging feeling that our son "needs" a sibling!

My hubby's opinion is - if (that's a big if!) we are going to have a 2nd one, we need to have one NOW and I'm not ready for that right now. We both feel the same way, part of us wants a second one but the biggest part of both of us is fine with just one.

raddah - October 11th, 2010 11:11 PM

trouble deciding to have a second child will only lead to frustration on the both sides of you. if you are torn between the decision of having and not having, maybe you need to list down all pros and cons of having 2nd child right away or having it at least 2-3 years gap.

Amanda - October 20th, 2010 12:53 AM

maybe you are just not that ready because it's really hard to bear a child and guys don't understand that fear and worry we have. so, you may need to explain to your husband that you want to bear a child but you don't it as early as he's thinking.

CHAVIE - October 21st, 2010 3:17 PM

just find a good timing to tell him what you want and keep the conversation as much as possible calm and serious so you can point out your side as clear as he may understood.

MissG - October 23rd, 2010 11:58 AM

I was of the mindset that we only wanted one child. Our world revolved around DD. Then I considered the relationship that I have with my wonderful siblings. They were such an amazing part of who I am today. My husband and I decided to try for number 2. Our kiddos will just be four years apart. There are days that I second guess myself but I know that in the long run this is the best choice. I want my children to always have each other to depend on. If something were to happen to my husband and they would always have each other. That being said, we are making some pretty big sacrifices to make this work. We will be moving across the state to be closer to friends and family. I will be leaving my job and staying at home for a few months. We will be changing almost everything about our lifestyle. These are sacrifices that I am willing to make but it isn't for everyone.

WhatdoUSay - October 23rd, 2010 11:59 AM

With the way the economy is we decided that 1 was enough we thought that if we were blessed enough to have 1 of our own then we will and if later we decided we want another we will adopt or foster there are way too many children out there already who need a family..but 8months later I'm the happiest i ever could be with out 1 and only DD...my husband is a full time paramedic is maybe home 2.5 days a wk..so i honestly think 1 is plenty enough for us.

Mackenzie - October 23rd, 2010 12:00 PM

My situation is a bit different. He has two children. I don't. This one will be my only child and both of us have agreed that when I have one, he'll be getting a vasectomy and I an IUD.

I think the ultimate decision is up to you and your husband. Are you both ready for a second? It seems like you may not be. There's nothing wrong with having an only child. There are a lot of pros to an only child.

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