In many instances, raising a special needs child changes the way that parents think and feel. Here are some common lessons that many parents of special needs children feel that they have learned.
Know that some
things can be changed and other things can't. Work hard to change what you can.
Accept what cannot be changed.
A different package
You might grieve for the child that won't be, the child you hoped for. Then you can move on with some degree of hope and enthusiasm, because you are getting a different package - one that contains a gift you didn't expect, with nice surprises you never expected. Parenting a child with special needs is like learning to appreciate visiting a place you never planned to go.
"Special" includes everyone
All people are unique, each with his or her "special"
personality, talents and challenges, likes and dislikes. Your child may not be
typical, but he or she is an individual, like everyone else, and deserves the
Teach and learn
Through aiding and guiding their child with special needs, you may see that your child teaches you important lessons you otherwise would not have learned.
Appreciate people for who they are
You start to appreciate people for who they are, not only for their talents or what they can give you. You learn that, although your child is physically and/or cognitively disabled, at her core she is a complete human being.
You are stronger than you imagined
Raising a special needs child, you may learn that you possess strength you never realized. Overcoming the challenges involved with bringing up a special needs child helps you to become a stronger, smarter and more sensitive person.
A real education
Raising a special needs child gives you the opportunity to learn many things that you never expected to. You might find yourself becoming an expert on child development, anatomy, physiology, therapies, medications, natural remedies and human emotions. You may feel as if you have learned enough to get a higher degree in several fields.
Rose colored glasses
You might begin to notice how compassionate some people can be. You can learn the invaluable worth of friendly support, of help that is truly helpful, of a hug.
All a process
of a boy with Down syndrome learned a beautiful lesson. Just as reaching each
developmental milestone is a slow challenge for her little Dave, so too is growth in her own life.
disabled son, this mother learned to validate her own baby steps towards change
and acceptance, and to appreciate the sincere efforts of those who care about her. You may also find this to be true for you.